This post will probably have my male readers heading for high ground as most guys seldom admit to crying and are usually helpless around a woman crying. A child crying from fear or pain can destroy even the strongest man.
Tears are most men's Kryptonite. We love them for that and we have been known to use that lethal weapon for personal gain. Not me (she protests), but I'm just saying.
For those of you with teenage daughters or granddaughters trying to manipulate you with tears, here is a secret if you don't intend to cave in . "There, there" or "go to your room", only brings on more tears. Just hand her a mirror. That works even better for the fake teen age cry. Crying ain't pretty.
|Sarah Michelle Gellar can really work the ugly cry.|
Tears can flow when we are happy, moved, sad, in pain, touched, or peeling onions. One good thing that crying is known for is to flush toxins from the body.
I use to be much more stoic and even a bit critical about the easy criers in my younger days. The older I get the quicker I cry and less I scoff. Perhaps I cry more in my advanced years because I am full of toxins that need purging. Who knows?
The loss of, or sudden memory of an absent loved one, a story of great accomplishment in spite of obstacles, injustice, a child suffering, animal cruelty (don't get me started on those damn Humane Society commercials), all of these and many more close off my throat and make me grab a hankie. I really use to be a lot less watery.
From what I have gathered, our tear ducts have a sort of sphincter and it makes sense that since our other sphincters lose a bit of control as we age, why not the tear sphincter?
My question is, do we women enjoy crying? I recently watched the season opener I had recorded of my favorite show "Army Wives" and it turned into a one hour cry. Criminy.
Now Army Wives is not a reality show like the "Real Housewives of where ever". It is a nice series about the problems the wives of our service men endure plus a good story line and very enjoyable characters.
The wives really support each other and are great, very likable, sometimes quirky, strong friends. It is a pleasure to see such "got your back" caring . Of course another reason for my addiction to the show is that I really, really like the General.
Then for the next episode I managed to make it through her memorial service only choking up a bit. However later in the show watching the General as he dissolved into his own full blown sobs, I lost it.
Now I know why men can't bear to see us cry. It is brutal seeing raw pain exposed. Since I did not avoid that second episode knowing full well what was most likely coming , I might need help.
All I can say is I'm pretty sure I am toxin free now. Knowing the show like I do, this will not be the last cry the writers have built in for us. Sadly it is a show about our military after all.
So why do I insist on watching? While there are many warm, funny and feel good moments to the show, the eventual cry is a given. So, do I enjoy "the good cry"?? I don't really feel better afterwards and certainly don't look better but I don't go out of my way to avoid one and willingly hunker down with a box of Puffs nearby so I must.
My question is-- Do you enjoy a good cry or steer clear of one if at all possible??