4 days ago
Monday, August 3, 2015
Gosh, I sure am glad I am not a young man these days (well any day I guess but especially these days). Just asking a girl for a date to the prom or if he is really serious, asking her to marry him has become a production. One that needs to top all the previous ones recorded.
As an uninterested party, I do enjoy watching the creativity these fellows put into their quests. Sky writing, flash mobs, costumes, jumping out of airplanes, and knee dropping in front of thousands. There have been some sweet and very choreographed proposals that were filmed and gone viral. Yes, the camera is vital. While I am glad I am not a young man in today's world but I am also glad I am not a young woman. Goodness. the pressure!!!
I have had three proposals in my long lifetime that I accepted but they sure were run of the mill. "Will you marry me?" " I think we should get married." "You know, we could get married." Not mind blowers nor creative but I accepted all three at least for a while. However I only followed through on one to the alter. I am not counting the one that came at the end of a wanna be pimp's recruitment that I wrote about in 09. I was easily able to refuse that one.
How would I have felt if the guys had put on a big production. Would I have felt obligated to actually marry the fellow on effort alone?
My niece was surprised by such a proposal and caved to the pressure. Her boyfriend was a sports writer so he had some pull. At a Cleveland Cavalier's game, he got the arena to paste his proposal on the score board during half time. When she saw it the same time as the thousands in attendance, he dropped to one knee. Later she told me--how could I say no?
She married him but it didn't last and she often felt it was that darn proposal that made her accept when in her heart, she wasn't sure.
I wonder how many of these women today say "yes" simply not to embarrass the fellow. They obviously care something about the guys or they wouldn't be dating them. Still, marriage may not have even been a consideration.
So is the surprise proposal production a good idea? Who knows but like many people, I watch even while in the back of my mind, I am thinking of my niece.
Surprise proposals are interesting to watch but nothing tops the surprise reunion of military service parent and child. Now that brings happy tears and I could watch them all day and never question their value as I do the surprise proposal.
Did you ever receive a spectacular proposal and did it sway your decision??
at 5:11 AM Posted by Arkansas Patti