Monday, July 20, 2020

"F"BOMB


I like to think I am not a prude but maybe I am. I do avoid books,  movies or TV shows that rely too heavily on the "F" bomb as part of the dialog. I can see a few usages where warranted but a gratuitous amounts leaves me cold.  To me it is cheap writing. Kind of like a comedian who is not getting many laughs will drop an "F"-bomb and get instant laughter.  Don't get it but what ever puts food on the table. 

Now I totally admit to keeping the "F" bomb in reserve for extreme sudden pain or when witnessing an impending accident. I might have used it when the horse collar fell off my wall last week. By using it sparingly, it doesn't lose its pain easing powers or satisfaction when expressing outrage.  Other wise, I tend to keep things pretty clean. "Crap" is still pretty much my go to word.

However every now and then I find a usage that does make me laugh for it is so darn cute.  If you saw the film Philomena with Judi Dench, that was one of the adorable times it was used.

Judi plays an Irish lady whose child was taken from her by the Convent and she tries to find him once she is an adult.  She kept using a word that I couldn't place at first.  She was dropping the "F"-bomb but pronounced it "fook" with an Irish accent.  Now that is just cute. It cracked me up as it was effective but harmless.  

I am reading a series of books now that uses it in another cute way.  I have a long family history with Key West so I am enjoying the Road to Key West  books by Michael Reisig which are fictional and amusing accounts of two fellows who have almost Indiana Jones type adventures.  They get into situations where there is no way they can possibly survive but somehow they manage escape unscathed. 

Humor is a strong part of his stories and since they are largely based in Key West or the Caribbean, I am enjoying them.   

The writing is suggestive but clean. There is sex but no details. It took me a while to learn how the lead character swore.  The first time was when I came across the phrase he used to describe someone without good sense.  He called him nucking futs.  Huh??

Okay.  I saw what he did. He switched the first letters of each word so instead of saying F***ing nuts, he used nucking futs.    The expressions are used sparingly and are never quite the same version so each time it takes me a minute---then I get it.  I may adopt his letter swapping usage when necessary. It makes the point without getting crude. 

Of course if you are just using the word by itself as a noun, verb, adverb or adjective this swapping letters won't work. That is when the Irish accent might come in handy. 

Does a book or movie that relies heavily on the F-bomb turn you off or do you care? 

75 comments :

  1. I think it depends on the characters using the F word. For example I was reading a bunch of Navy Seal books earlier this summer and just about every other word was the F word which didn't bother me at all. In fact, I found creativity in the way it was used at times. I don't like female characters who swear profusely, though. Now that's pretty sexist of me isn't it. LOL

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    1. Jean,
      Me too on rough tough females who try too hard to be men. I do know the military is prolific with the bombs in real life.

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  2. I could not watch The Sopranos and it was constant F bomb that got to be even before the violence. So, yes, I know what you mean.
    I am reading Louise Penny's books, set in Canada just north of the VT border. The French Canadian
    swear is "Tabernacle!" I had never heard that, but Don, who grew up much closer to the border said it was common in his home town.

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    1. Olga,
      Tabernacle huh? May have to think on that one. But then we know the Canadians are known for their politeness. It may work.

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    2. I have a son who says Fu-coffee and a daughter says Fudge as I sometimes do.

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    3. River,
      I have been known to use Fudge also.

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  3. The F bomb is my go to word. I love the word. It's an adjective, a noun, an adverb, a verb etc. But I do admit if it is constant then it gets to me just like the word ya know. The word itself does not offend me. The Mango Mussolini offends me, being filled with hate offends me, being racist offends me. But this word is not offensive to me.

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    1. Margaret,
      I often find the F bomb used to the annoying frequency factor as "you know." That phrase drives me crazy. Me too on racism, meanness, cruelty, and hate. Pretty sure Mango is nucking futs.

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  4. I have grown inured to the awfulness of the word. It's used so commonly now I guess I need a new one. "Tabernacle" doesn't do it for me, though. :-)

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    1. Djan,
      It does totally lose its power when overused.
      Maybe we need to know the story behind Tabernacle.

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  5. I haven't watched a movie or read a novel in years, but from reading this post I can see that things have definitely changed. I have to admit that the "F" word is absolutely one of my favorites, and I use it all the time. These days it's hard not to.

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    1. robin,
      Ha ha, I remember the last time I posted about a similar subject, you threatened to go the whole day without using it. How did that go for you:)

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  6. Patti, this sure was an amusing read—I miss the days when the “F bomb” carried a lot more weight. Growing up, my dear mom “swore like a sailor”, but my dad never uttered a single swear word. (Though he laughed along with us kids when Mom went into one of her salty tirades about HER mother, the cost of living, nosy neighbors, etc.) Still, the “F” word was never used, reserved for only the absolute worst... in all those years I can only remember her uttering it 3 times.

    In the mid-1970s when Disney World opened, we drove all the way from southwestern Pa to Orlando to go (staying at a couple roadside motels along the way). When we entered the so-called Magic Kingdom and were going down ‘Main Street, USA’, one of those oversized Disney characters (Pluto) came up behind us and jokingly bumped into us. My mom turned and jumped about 4 feet, and yelled the F word, and my dad shouted “Miss Linda!” (what he called her) and Pluto put his paws over his mouth. You could see about 50 people in a wide circle around us, frozen in their tracks and staring in our direction. I doubt today Mom would get the same reaction!

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    1. Doug,
      That is a delightful story about your Mom and Pluto. She saved it for an audience. Would have loved to have been there.

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  7. It’s a gross word to me, but more offensive is to use Jesus Christ Or God as a cuss word. My heart lurches when it’s used.

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    1. Cheryl,
      Thanks for stopping by. I totally get you and rarely go there. If I do, I apologize immediately.

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  8. I tend to get annoyed when a movie or book uses the F word too frequently. I keep thinking can't you find another word? I did read Philomena and I can't recall being offended by the "fook".

    My brother does the letter switching trick. We also use the aviation alphabet Foxtrot Oscar sometimes.
    Have a great day!

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    1. Eileen,
      Think the fook was probably only noticeable in the movie with her accent. Good to hear your brother uses the letter switching. That way you can get the point across and not give someones grandmother in hearing distance apoplexy. Foxtrot Oscar would also work.

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  9. Hey, those examples made me laugh. I do agree that the F bomb is used too often and sounds so crude and rude.

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    1. gigi,
      Sometimes it is just used too much and just becomes annoying. I steer clear of media that does that.

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  10. I come from the theory that I want my books and movies and TV to be realistic, so I want my characters to say what they would say in real life. I tend to swear like a sailor but I really try hard not to use the lord's name in vain (and regularlly apolgize throughout my day as I do so). I read alot of tough police procedurals and stuff so swear words are definity part of the vocab.

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    1. Barb,
      Ah ah, my friend the potty mouth:))
      I had to smile at your apologizing for I have found my self doing that also if I slip up.

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  11. It bothers me some --but I've gotten used to the language since it is used almost everywhere constantly.... I remember when I was much younger telling my mother that "Gosh Darn" just didn't quite do it when I would slam a hammer on my finger by accident....Sometimes --it just needs to be something that says exactly what you feel..... ha ha....

    We have been watching a lot of Netflix and Prime movies/TV shows this summer.... As opposed to the network shows --MOST of these shows are filled with dirty language..... It's the crazy world we live in!!!!

    Hugs,
    Betsy

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    1. Betsy,
      Agree. A smashed finger needs more than Darn it. I have heard that actors prefer working on non network projects as they can use adult language. I just feel they over do it.

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  12. It's only a wee word. Doesn't really bother me. But it reveals a lot about the speaker. Mainly a lack of imagination and a level of disrespect. I prefer to use an assortment of old timey expressions and only drop the F-bomb for moments of severe pain. I wonder what future cussers will use when that one wears out?

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    1. Florence,
      I have wondered the same thing about the future as they really are using it into oblivion.
      Agreed that it really does give a moments of pain relief. I think that has been proven.

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  13. I agree. Sometimes a movie is just boring if that is word is the main dialog.

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    1. Barbara,
      Yep, boring and annoying. It is just over used. How can anyone enjoy that?

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  14. Yes, yes, yes! Bud h I went to a Paul Newman movie...every other word was the "f" word. We walked out after less than 10 minutes. And I've been to be known to ask friends to leave our home with vulgar language.

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    1. Anni,
      Know what you mean. A friend and I were watching a movie that just abused that word. I asked her if she understood where they were going or what they planed to do when they got there and neither of us had a clue. Click.

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  15. The word itself doesn't bother me. I don't use it... but my men folk certainly do. The only time it does bother me is when it is said as 'every other word' and I think there was a movie once we were watching that did this.... (maybe ScarFace?? - not sure), but I did walk away as it was annoying.

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    1. Rian,
      When it is like that, I just lose track of the plot line and wonder why anyone would think it was a good idea.

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  16. I do not like hearing or reading the F word. But, on another note, My daughter says a 4 letter word that starts with F. If we ask her how she is, her response is FINE. and so on... regardless of what we ask the answer is always FINE. So, we've made it a rule that we can't say FINE.. I guess FINE is better than F*** anyway you look at it.

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    1. Latane,
      Had to smile. I have a friend who can't stand it when I say I am OK--which is kind of like FINE. Doesn't tell you much does it?

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  17. I find the f-bombs in books and/or movies unnecessary. It feels like it has to be used (by the writer) to make it feel edgy. Waste of time to read or watch.

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    1. Susan,
      Me too. To me it is also lazy writing and a cheap hook.

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  18. I read reviews on books before I put them on my Kindle and it's amazing how many people don't find gratuitous cursing offensive. One book that had glowing reviews had a curse word on about every page. Needless to say, it didn't go on my Kindle. I think using curse words in writing is just plain lazy unless it's in context because everyone says a curse word once in a while, but having characters using curse words on every page is a bit much. The words I really find offensive are the ones taking God's name in vain. I even feel bad reading them and I always say, "Sorry," to God because it slips up on me. Kind of hard to not read these words anymore in todays' literature with today's morals. Maybe I am a prude in some ways.

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    1. Snickelfritz,
      Don't feel badly, that seems to be the general opinion. One thing I always do when I check the reviews on Kindle is to read 3 of the one star ones. Some will be ridiculous but that will let you know if the language is really bad.

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  19. Anything that relies heavily on the F word is a no no for me. Movie, book, conversation with a neighbour...no thanks.

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    1. River,
      I know, sometimes it is just ridiculous how sometimes it is just about every other word. No way.

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  20. Hu that was an interesting read, more so the responses than the story told by Patti.
    I now 67 grew up using the f word but suddenly at about 35 years old found it a good challenge to get by without it now I even find it hard to use however I do like to use the phrase "no wooking ferrys" then it's fun to watch and see if people get it.

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    1. srbg,
      Thanks for stopping by and commenting. Usually my commenters are way better than my posts. Kind of like" wooking ferrys". Might borrow that. Thanks.

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  21. I think people who use foul language are too lazy to fin the right word!

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    1. Awkward Widow,
      It makes us pretty certain we are not dealing with an agile mind if that is all they have.

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  22. It used to offend me but to be honest I hear it so much now in films, music and from both my daughters, (sigh) it doesn't bother me now. The word that I still find highly offensive is the "c" word which I've never said.

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    1. Joey,
      Probably since I only watch network TV I don't hear much of the F bomb and truthfully, pretty sure I have never heard the "c" word though it has been referred to as just that even on network shows.

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  23. I agree that over usage of the f word is just poor writing, show a lack of vocabulary.
    I discovered a new one. In the current English mystery series I am reading by author Elly Griffiths, the Chief Inspector expresses exasperation with the phrase "Jesus wept!"

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    1. Linda,
      Wow, I haven't heard that expression in years. My Mom use to use it occasionally when something would overwhelm her.

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  24. I don't know about the movies, but this is the first time I've read a post about the f-bomb. And so delightfully written, it could really be about any of the many magnificent words in the English language.

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    1. Inger,
      Thank you so much. I did do one a long time ago on the same subject.

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  25. My parents sent me (from France) to college in England for a year to perfect my English language. Every evening, in a little book, I used to write a series of words that had a similar sound and memorize them. Later I would include them in a sentence so I would not forget them. So that time I had written luck, buck and F. I did not know what the last word meant as I had just heard it and it was not in my English-French dictionary. So I made up sentences for buck and luck then asked my teacher how I could use the 3rd word, the F word. She refused, she said it was a swearing word and to forget it, but did not tell me what it meant. Then of course when I came to the US I found out. But to me because of my studying it still sounds like luck or buck, I don’t notice it, it’s just another English word. If I want to swear I use a French swear word – that has meaning to me, starts with an M. And I cannot even write it now as it sounds so vulgar to me. I think when you have a native language other than English your favorite swear words are in that language. If someone told you what is the equivalent of the F word in Chinese, it would not bother you when you heard it.

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    1. Vagabonde,
      Interesting. You make an excellent point I had not thought of before. My father use to swear in Spanish to disguise the words. Though I knew the general meaning, they held no shock value for they were not in English.

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  26. Dear Patti, I am turned off by the heavy-handed use of the "f" word. I find myself wishing that the person would use his/her imagination and thus come up with some really creative words to express whatever.

    Years ago a noted historian--whose name I can't remember now--wrote a book on the creativity of swearing in the English world back in earlier centuries. I so enjoyed that book and wish I could remember the title because I think you, too, would delight in it. Peace.

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    1. Dee,
      I know, to me it is lazy writing and is only used for shock value. I can't respect anyone who does that.

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  27. I agree with you. That word doesn't get uused freely around here.

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    1. Mage,
      Good to hear or I should say to not hear.

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  28. Dear Patti, the name of the author of the book I talked about in my comment came to me this morning!!! Ashley Montagu.
    The book is "The Anatomy of Swearing." It's available, used, on Amazon. Peace.

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    1. Dee,
      You are so right. Compared to other countries, we really are not creative in our swearing. My Dad use to swear in Spanish to disguise that he was saying but the Spanish were much more creative in the translations I figured out. I will look for that book. Thanks.

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  29. Oh yes. It is a turn off for me too. I can take just a little of it, but if it’s scattered too liberally, I would prefer to watch something else. Whoever this Yoho is, I’m glad AOC did not back down. I can’t believe he called his apology an apology. To call your colleague what he did... it’s absolutely disgusting.

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    1. Kay,
      Totally agree. I admire her moxy. No one should be treated with such disrespect.
      Stay safe from Douglas.

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  30. As you say, the word has been completely overused and it is watered down and it has lost its effectiveness. The Irish "Fookin" is always funny to me, but then if they use "Bloody" you better beware.

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    1. joeh,
      So good to see you here Joe. Hoping you will come back to blogging. You are necessary.
      "Fook" does crack me up and has no bite to it. Love it. Odd how Bloody seems so awful to those in the UK and really seems harmless to us. Kind of what Vagabonde said. It it isn't in our language, it carries no shock value nor weight.

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  31. For me, it depends on who uses it. I remember seeing Eddie Murphy live during my high school years, so many decades ago now, and laughing hysterically. I feel pretty confident he used it a lot. But I have decided against watching some Quentin Tarantino movies because the language seemed awful.

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    1. Sue,
      Possibly who uses it and when you hear it. In our teen years we are impressed with grown up language but as we do grow up sometimes we find the overuse over the top.

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  32. I’ve never found the “f” word particularly expressive for some of my exclamations. Has always seemed to me its adoption was based solely on shock value when it began to be more openly used so I never got in the habit of using it. I do have my colorful uncouth words that release my tensions.

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    1. Joared,
      I'm with you on shock value. Still when we do need to either ease a pain from a hammer to the thumb or frustration, creativity is more effective.

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  33. The answer is a resounding "YES" to being turned off when a book is filled with the F word. However I was interested to find out that in England it is considered close to our "darn it". Loved Philamena.

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    1. Ginnie,
      Wasn't Judi Dench great in that? Like you overuse is what turns me off.
      "Darn it" in England. Who knew?

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  34. I make use of the word "crap" quite frequently. It seems to be my go-to. I try not to be offended by the "f" word, but if someone uses it alot, and as you said, more as an attention getter or for a laugh, then it bothers me to hear it. Actually, I am indeed a prude. I didn't use to be, but cable and satellite have ruined tv for me.

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    1. Terri,
      Me too on crap. I don't watch much on satellite for that reason. Once is shock value, ten times is annoying.

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  35. One time I was riding a chair lift with 5 young people who were using copious f's every other word. Finally, I said, "Give me a break, will you? Have some respect for me and for yourself. I'm old enough to be your grandmother!" They shut up immediately. I don't mind seeing "F" in print, but see no reason it has to be used as a verb or adjective continually. Then, it starts to grate. I rarely use it myself but when I do, Bob comes to attention.

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    1. Barb,
      Was impressed that they stopped using it in front of you. They must love their grandmothers.
      Funny how Bob knows that when you use it, he needs to listen.

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  36. After I watched Scarface with my husband years ago, I figured that could not be surpassed in f-bombs, but it probably has been now.
    I wouldn't watch it now, but he wanted to see it. I've not seen many movies in awhile, but the word rarely adds that much if it's overused. It can add something to a film when it's justified, (if it ever really is), but mostly, a well written movie could do without losing much in a movie. If writers could be a bit more original, maybe they could replace it with something more palatable, but it doesn't seem to bother as many people as it once did. 😱 Seems pretty lazy for writers to use it so often, IMHO!

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    1. Bluebird49,
      Thank you for stopping by and commenting. You are the second to mention Scarface. That must have made an impression for the overuse of the bomb. I think people are getting ho hum about it's use now days but like you I still find it lazy writing or filming.

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  37. Yes. Shows the author is not a very good one.

    Did not remember Judi Dench's 'fook' from that film!!!!!

    And the switching first letters is cute too.

    Although, the word itself, is a very satisfying explative. Uncouth or not.

    🌹

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