Are there things better than sex? Isn't there a “better than sex” cake? Somehow “cake”, even BTSC, has never done it for me. Also, I'm not sure about the “better than” status but I am sure there are a lot of things “as good as or almost as good as.”
Considering my age and single status, these are some of mine, real and imagined "almost as good as".
1. Having your doctor give you a thumbs up after a tedious treatment.
2. A deep, prolonged belly laugh that brings tears and threatens tinkles.
3. Riding a motorcycle while just a smidgen afraid. Super thrill ride.
4. Experiencing an amazing massage that has no time limit. The masseur will stop only when you say “stop” and he will keep supplying fresh towels to mop up your drool. This is in the imagined category. Hasn't happened ---yet.
5. Unwrapping a present and finding it is much more than you would have even dared to wish for.
6. Watching the needle on the bathroom scales stop on your weight goal number once again. It never gets old.
7. Completely forgiving someone who wronged you in the past. This really is a huge “high”.
8. Being in Oprah's “favorite things” audience. Am I too late for that? Again, imagined.
9. Of course at my age, a really good, daily bowel movement is right up there.
10. Last but not least and the purpose of the post is; meeting someone whom you can have verbal intercourse with. And no, I do not mean talking dirty.
In groups, I am primarily a listener. I sit back like a spider enjoying the conversation flow, will throw out a pertinent, hopefully funny one liner, then climb back onto my watchful web enjoying the scene.
One on one, I am much more verbal. Then on rare delightful occasions, I meet the perfect mind and a delightful fencing match begins. Gender doesn't make a difference.
Sometimes it is with a stranger who entered my life briefly, which I guess makes it a mental one night stand.
It can be with a like minded person but sometimes opposites are equally stimulating. What is important is that you both feel it. You crawl inside each other's skull and share space. The exchange is open and free.
Serious topics can be invigorating but what I really enjoy is when I find someone with a similar funny bone and a “laugh off” begins. You feed off each others humor and it rapidly escalates.
What he says delights and makes you laugh while your response does the same for him. You crack each other up while non participating spectators may not see the humor at all. You just "get" each other. What might elevate this to a "better than" status is that it can be done fully clothed in a crowded room.
This playful mental sparring to me is the best of the best—well maybe tied for first with the good daily bowel movement. Age does change our viewpoints I fear.
Is there anything for you that is “ almost as good as” sex or are you quite content with sex being the superior entertainment ?
Well I've made that cake and it is good I hear but not better than sex. I agree, my husband makes me laugh every day. Weekly I have a belly laugh to the point of tears and I swear that is the so called secret to our marriage. It helps to laugh together. And I would take #4 and #6 on your list. :-)
ReplyDeletePeggy,
DeleteOne of the neat things about reading your blog is the fun dialog that goes between you two. I have always thought humor was the greatest weapon for a successful marriage.
It's always good to laugh. I look forward to good ones, with whomever and whenever. And #6 and #9 would be my top ones. I once had a massage that went on too long, so I'm now happy with an hour's worth! :-)
ReplyDeleteDjan,
DeleteOoh lucky you to have had a massage last too long. I may have been close before but never to the point of wanting it to stop.
I've had cake so good it lead to sex, but . . .
ReplyDeleteOlga,
DeleteYou know many will want what you were having:))
Okay, now I want cake and it's only 9:30 in the morning.
ReplyDeleteYour list is great and the one I crave the most is #10.
Jean,
DeleteYou and me both--#10 not wanting cake:)) You can't beat it for satisfaction.
I nice cigar, a glass a good scotch and good conversation...ex=specially after sex.
ReplyDeletejoeh,
DeleteHa ha. Love the sequence, if you can keep your partner from rolling over and going to sleep.
Sex doesn't last, laughing does. And I believe a good shared laugh brings a couple more together than sex. You really need both in your life, but if forced to give up one or the other, I'd keep the laughter every time.
ReplyDeleteCarolyn,
DeleteYes, there is no time limit to the pleasure laughing can bring. I need it like food.
Dear Patti, laughter wins out for me always and ever.
ReplyDeleteNow tell me, how do you come up with your topics? Every week, I come to your blog knowing I'm going to discover a new facet of your life and/or personality. It's absolutely intriguing what you offer us each week. Peace.
Dee,
DeleteThank you but one might truthfully say I maybe have too much time on my hands:)
--seeing my glucose is at an all time low.
ReplyDeleteSame thing with my weight.
--finding out meals are being served on the airplane.
--the dentist saying I don't need any treatment.
There's so many.
Kay,
DeleteAh, you have a solid list also.
Kay's comment about the dentist is definitely on my list! Whatever the age, if you can't laugh with a person, the sex will be forgettable, and you'd do better with cake.
ReplyDeleteBarb,
DeleteGood point well taken. Humor makes everything better.
I'd take any of them in no particular order, but #9 is definitely at the top.
ReplyDeleteSusan,
DeleteIt really can determine you day can't it?
You caught me on the wrong day because yesterday I read a letter from an old love from 1971 and, at least for today, I swear there's nothing better than sex. Or was, perhaps I should say.
ReplyDeleteInger,
DeleteHe must have been great:) Not even something "almost as good?"
I like your #10, and while laughing is great, I do love a deep, serious, mind stretching conversation.
ReplyDeleteLinda,
DeleteAgreed. Sadly for me anyway, they don't happen that often so when they do they are memorable.
Cake??? I’ve been off that for years. Sex? What’s that? I think I recognize those words from a different life, dimension, or maybe that was all a fantasy. Ah...laughter is still with me and I hope it will be when I make my final exit.
ReplyDeleteJoared,
DeleteLuckily laughter is portable, can be enjoyed in a crowd, and adds years to our lives.
For me: #2, #3,#5 #6 are all better than or as good as sex. The good bowel movement is a regular daily thing here, so it doesn't count.
ReplyDeleteRiver,
ReplyDeleteYes but doesn't it impart a feeling of well being each day? Thankfully, mine does.
Oh, wow, do I know what you mean about finding someone you can really talk to and laugh with. My husband is the strong, silent type, but every so rare often we will click like we did when we first got together and it's wonderful and we will giggle like school girls together. But I like to have girlfriends I can laugh with and share only girl things with. I think you'd be a fun girlfriend. Sex is wonderful, but far over-rated and given much too much time. But maybe that's my age.
ReplyDeleteSnickelfritz,
DeleteI agree. I think both sexes need time with the same sex so we can talk about things the other gender might not get. Girls nights and guys nights are important.
Yes, yes, and yes.
ReplyDeleteMage,
DeleteHa ha, your three answers made me go back and look. Reminds me of a time I did that and unintentionally got out of jury duty.
Oh my Patti, what a wonderful memory this bring up. I was the only guy who regularly ate in the teacher work room. There were 7 female teacher. Each of us had to bring a treat for lunch taking turn weekly. So on the day in question I was reminded to get my share of some that look kinda like chocolate cake. It's Robert Redford cake I was informed. After wolfing it down I was asked by on lady in a rather conspiratorial manner "is it". Is it what? I replied. It has another name I was informed. B.T.S.C. Well, I know a trap when I see it. Thay all knew my wife. I'm not going yes on that one. On the other no might lead to the group deciding a was some kind of perverted coworker pervert in a a local school It was going to be lose, lose, now matter what. I called up my social studies background and referred to the fifth Amendment to the Constitution. Hey!Remember I was outnumber and the jury of 7 had me way out number...:)
ReplyDeleteRay,
DeleteHa ha, you were in a bind and Amen for the 5th amendment. I haven't had to use it but it is a comfort knowing it is there.
Great post! Glad to find your blog.
ReplyDeleteLove from Amsterdam
Adie Das,
DeleteWelcome to the New Sixty. Thank you so much for stopping by and commenting. You came a long way.
Ha! At my age many things are far better than sex. Of all the things I can think of, a cherished lingering intellectual conversation over a couple of glasses of wine would certainly be at the top.
ReplyDeleteMary,
DeleteHi again. Good to see you here. So agree. Wish I could do the glasses of wine but will have to settle for the great conversation.
I had a male friend who passed away last year at age 88. He always said that a good sneeze was better than sex. (See how I got out of answering the question ???)
ReplyDeleteGinnie,
DeleteThat is funny. Seems I haven't been sneezing right:))
Well, sweet Patti at my age I have quite a long list of "better thans" laughter for sure being number one. I miss all the laughs me and my Shug had together for all those years. Hugs
ReplyDeleteMaggie,
DeleteLaughs are the best and so happy you have those good memories with him.